14. DEMYSTIFYING GAY SEX
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HOW WELL ACQUAINTED ARE YOU WITH… TOPS, BOTTOMS, OTTERS, WOLVES, BEARS, CUBS OR TWINKS?
Sara and Jye take a lighthearted look at some of the most common terminology used in the gay world with their guest Tom Attenborough this episode.
Tom shares his views on the classic "nature vs nurture" debate, and questions if it really matters. We also discuss the biggest stereotypes about gay people, whether the "gaydar" actually exists, and how the gay scene in Hong Kong compares with the rest of the world.
We then debunk the biggest myths around gay sex, and discover why there's a lot more to gay sex than "one person bending over, and the other smashing it in"!
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14:20 – 16:50 Social and cultural attitudes towards gay people
21:35 – 23:00 Places, websites and apps where you can find and meet gay people
23:00 – 26:00 Common stereotypes about gay people
33:17 – 38:57 Common terminology used in the gay world
40:40 – 47:00 The mechanics of gay sex
50:00 – 60:00 Myths of gay sex discussed… and debunked!
WORDS OF WISDOM
“If you are in a developed place, people have developed attitude. But, even if you just go out into the countryside around any of these major cities where people are less educated, less open-minded, less informed, less likely to meet a broad spectrum of society, you still get bigotry and hatred.”
“The logic game that we should all be trying to play is helping save people’s lives in the countries where they get beaten and killed for being gay.”
“Acceptance and legalization of homosexuality around the world should be everyone’s priority.”
“It [anal sex] has the potential to hurt if you get it wrong or if the other person gets it wrong. It has the potential to hurt either of you. It’s just learning and practice. It’s also knowing when it’s not really going to work out.”
OTHER GREAT REFERENCES YOU'LL LOVE
· Queer as Folk – Watch this American-Canadian drama series which is sort of a “instruction manual on how to be a young gay person” according to our guest Tom
· 10 Straight Myths about Gay Sex – A straightforward article debunking the common myths that straight people have about gay sex
· The Guysexual’s Urban Dictionary for Gay Slang – Here’s a list of some gay terms to help you understand what they really mean
· The 30 Best LGBTQ+ Films of All Time – Aside from Queer as Folk, you also might want to check out these 30 best LGBTQ+ films of all time
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What’s the biggest myth around gay sex? What surprised you the most in this episode? Leave us a comment below - we'd love to know!