22. FINDING LOVE IN A DIGITAL AGE
HOW HAS TECHNOLOGY CHANGED THE WORLD OF DATING AND FINDING LOVE?
In some ways, the Internet has made it easier to meet and connect with people outside our immediate social circle. Yet it’s also exploded our options, and the choices can be paralysing. So finding love could be more challenging.
Sara and co-host Prescott discuss the impact that online dating has had on our psyches, and whether we still believe in romance. Or if ghosting and dick pics have gotten in the way.
We are also joined by Lauryn Huang, the ex-CEO of Grouvly, a dating and matchmaking agency based in Singapore.
As a trained matchmaker, Lauryn is a staunch believer in love and wants to help people find real connection. Often she helps clients who have become jaded with swiping, online dating and want a more personal touch.
In addition to finding her clients tailored matches, she also coaches them on how to become the most fulfilled and attractive people they can be.
She talks Sara and Prescott through setting up a matchmaking profile, and reveals the mojo behind her matchmaking methodology… to hilarious results!
MORE JUICY BITS ON THE SHOW
(07:53 – 14:50) How online dating has changed the world of dating and finding love
(20:53 – 22:51) If online dating has made us romantics or cynics
(22:51 – 25:11) In defence of ghosting and dick pics
(25:25 – 28:26) How matchmaking is different from online dating
(38:55 – 44:38) The deal-breakers clients have and how Lauren works with them
(44:38 – 01:06:40) Prescott and Sara set up a matchmaking profile
WORDS OF WISDOM
“Online dating is a platform which gets you connected. Then everything else is up to you. Whether you choose to meet. How you text. That’s up to you.”
“It’s not one or the other. Either you’re a romantic or you’re a cynic. With our experiences, with our relationships we do tend to get a little bit cautious. We do tend to get a little bit skeptical. How do I do this? Or how do I do this right? And I want to do right by them. How do I do that and still value this person? How do I build that connection? How do I find out what they want? How do I not hurt them and still get what I want? We have to have a healthy sense of both. We can’t say that we’re a romantic or a cynic. It doesn’t really help us. “
“A lot of companies in this space, they have this narrative – you have to find someone by this age. That being single is a bad thing. And I really don’t support that idea at all. Being single is great. You have to learn how to be alone. You have to learn how to be happy with who you are.
“My favourite kind of client would be someone who knows that I’m on their side. Who knows that I’m here looking for someone for them. Who are open and honest with me about what’s going on. What are they thinking? What are they hung up on? And where we can work together.”
“The most important relationship you have is the relationship you have with yourself. Knowing yourself, knowing how you feel, knowing how to manage your emotions or manage your needs, or get your needs met. Those are the most important skills. I would say focus on that. Be the best person you can be. Value people that you have in front of you. And learn to communicate well.”
OTHER GREAT REFERENCES YOU'LL LOVE
Grouvly – matchmaking service in Singapore providing traditional matchmaking without the traditional price tag.
Better in Bed Episode 13: Playing the dating game – previous Better in Bed podcast on dating
The Matchmaking Institute - helps you become a successful matchmaker with accredited matchmaker certification programs
Singles In America – the most comprehensive study on singles, drawn up using data from Match.com
4Play Baltimore – Prescott’s sex and comedy show, which partners two stand-up comedians with 2 sex educators
TELL US WHAT YOU THINK!
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